Not So Common Courtesy

IMG_6170Whatever happened to common courtesy? Something as simple as a guy holding a door open for a lady is rare…

Growing up, I was always being taught manners and respectfulness, so it comes naturally for me to open doors for anyone who’s behind me or needs help…of course it should, I’ve got a pending OCD only child for a mother(she reads every post I write, so it’s okay) and a third-born dad which should say a lot:) Anyway, it’s a habit. Sometimes I get mad at myself when I forget to hold the door open for someone, or when I’m not able to help someone at the moment, more so when it’s a girl or woman. But what’s even worse for me is when there is another guy there watching that girl/woman struggle and not doing anything.

It’s just plain rude!

Sometimes I wish we could go back in time to, maybe, the 1800s or so, when etiquette and manners were a  big deal. The way society operated was so much more filled with respect for others. I mean, I can understand some girls like to do things for themselves and don’t always appreciate the help of us guys, but seriously? Guys nowadays need to step up their game.

Here’s a list of stuff I’m talking about (and these are just a few):

  •  When a pregnant lady is pushing the shopping cart while the man has his hands in his pockets.
  • When a girl is carrying something heavy, and a guy is there just watching.
  • Whatever happened to guys opening a simple car door for girls?
  • It’s very rare I see a guy pull open a chair for a lady, let alone offer the last chair.
  • Even terms of respect are scarce, like “Yes ma’am” and “Yes sir”.

I guess common courtesy isn’t so common.

“Let nothing be done through strife or vain glory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.”-Phillipians 2:3

Thanks for reading! – Joshua B.


7 thoughts on “Not So Common Courtesy

  1. It’s a “not so common courtesy” because time goes by. When time goes by, lifestyles change according to the choices one makes. Sometimes courtesy is taken for granted, and is assumed to no longer be necessary. That is because the change in lifestyles drive individuals to abandon “the usual”. Rather, it is “different” in which people seek. It’s really ironic though because “the usual” is “different”. For instance, there is a person lugging piles of books, and attempts to go through before the elevator doors close. Fortunately, in the elevator is another person, and they hold the open button, evidently a sign of common courtesy. Now, shift the perspective of common courtesy. It is not a question of whether or not the person chooses to be courteous, but how they demonstrate their courtesy.
    Lets say the person in the elevator does not hold the open button. They saw the person with the books, and the elevator had plenty of room. Even if the person in the elevator was being rude, they were also being courteous. They were being courteous towards the person with the books. Such an action was done without their awareness. To put it in other words, the person with the books didn’t have to be stuck in an elevator with an ignorant individual.

    Courtesy is still common today. It’s just hard to see them amongst discourtesy. 😉

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  2. First, I admire you for caring about courtesy.
    I agree with your example list, except perhaps this one: “When a pregnant lady is pushing the shopping cart while the man has his hands in his pockets.”
    My wife often has trouble walking. Usually it is from her feet hurting because of a few botched surgeries some years ago. Sometimes it is because her back hurts enough to affect balance. In either case, it is easier for her to push the cart because it gives her support, and it also carries her purse. Perhaps the same is true for some pregnant women?


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